Youth News - May 2012
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May 2012
by Matt Kay

The Sr. High youth group has been doing discussions on dating and how we can pursue relationships in a healthy manner. It’s actually kind of fun to talk about a topic that’s a little awkward at first but soon moves into interesting discussions with the teenagers.

On one of the recent weeks we discussed the issue of recognizing when something significant needs to change in a relationship – when the relationship becomes unhealthy for one or both of the people involved. In particular, we talked about the nature of idolatry, how to recognize it in one’s own life, and determining whether or not we are seeking something in a boyfriend or girlfriend that only God can provide. In a dating relationship, things certainly need to change when another person has become the primary source of one’s worth and meaning in life – when the relationship completely defines who a person is.

The issue of idolatry really broadens the issue to how we relate to all people and things, because anything that has become our source of worth, significance, and meaning in life is the thing that we can rightfully say is our "god." It begs the question: "Is Jesus my God?"

In wrestling with this question, I’ve found that these further questions (adapted from a series by a pastor named Tim Keller) to be particularly helpful:

  • To whom do I look to fulfill my deepest needs and desires?
  • Who or what do I have the biggest fear of losing?
  • Who or what is the one thing that I must have in order to live joyfully?
  • Who or what to I turn to for my sense of self-worth?
  • Who or what do I rely on to get me through the struggles of life?

In the Gospel, we have a God who comes to satisfy our deepest need for love and acceptance, a God is never going to leave us or forsake us, a God who is strong on our behalf when we are weak, and a God who showed us how much we are worth to Him by paying an infinite cost at the Cross to have us as His own.

May this good news be ours today through faith in Jesus, and may it change our lives so much to the point that we no longer use others to get what we want, but love others to give what they need – just as Christ has first loved us!

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus…”

Philippians 2.3-5

- Matt Kay

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