Anger – the very word evokes an emotion to some just by hearing the word itself. Some with certain temperaments will never admit that they are angry. All they will say is that their feelings are hurt, which may be true also. Some bury their anger until they it explodes one day and probably on the wrong person, or they could become very depressed.

So how should we deal with anger without sinning? Here are a few suggestions:

· Express anger in private when at all possible

· Tell the other person why you feel angry without concentrating on their faults. Concentrate on your reaction

· Work on whatever circumstances or situation caused the anger

· Do not exaggerate the issue or make threats

· Allow the other person to respond without interruption

· Work toward a solution – try to reach an agreement

I once knew a couple when I was younger who would have big blowups. I observed that even as they were arguing they began to agree with each other, but since they had to get their point across neither of them realized it.

It takes time to make changes so don’t get discouraged. If you really have an anger problem, make yourself accountable to someone or take a few anger management classes. Pray, memorize scripture concerning anger, and ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Remember God loves us just where we are.

Donna Ridge